Baby Hernandez Story Options

[baby hernandez]

Hi everyone. I am new to this forum.
I just wanted to introduce myself and let everyone know my story.
I am 34 years old and i have only found out 6 years ago that i was adopted. To me it was DEVISTATING. My adoptive parents never wanted me to know. I found my own adoption papers when looking in a safe deposit box for my adoptive mothers will when she was dying on cancer. My adoptive father knows nothing of my adoption. never met my birth parents and used a shady lawyer to buy me off a street corner in Brooklyn in 1974.
I am currently doing everything i can to try to find my birth family. I have registered with all the adoption registries, i talk to countless people online and anywhere i can to see what i can do to find my family. I have no clue as to what my medicle history is. I have no one who looks like me, no family and no idea where i fit in to this world. I was adopted into a jewish family who taught me nothing about the religion and way. I have found out i am really half spanish. I dont know from what country. I have found out bits and pieces from the State (NY) as well as from the birth index in NYC with my name. I have a false birth certificate and basically a false life.
I just want to tell anyone who i planning on adoptiong how important it is to NOT keep this vital information from your child. It is DEVISTATING to the child. Every human being deserves to know where they came from and their medical history. Mine is sealed away forever. The story of my life was taken from me and the government tells me i am not allowed to have it.
Please dont let your children grow up without knowing viatl information about themselves. Especially medical history.
Thanks for listening.

Baby Hernandez
Born 6/26/74, Brooklyn NY
Still searching after 6 years for birth family and medical history.

[Christina]

Hi, I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you had to find out about your adoption that way and that it is difficult for you to find your biological parents. I agree with you that it is important for adoptive parents to be honest with their children about their adoptions. Thank goodness, most adoptions are open or semi open today. We have an open adoption and really love the fact that our son will be able to ask his birth mother questions, get to know her if he wants to and know his genetic family history. Although I certainly wish I could have given birth to him myself, I am truly thankful for the gift that we were given and my husband and I always want to honor our son's birth mother and our son through our honesty and commitment to an open adoption. Best of luck to you. Even though your birth records are closed you may still find a way to find out about your birth parents. Don't give up hope and try not to be too hard on your adoptive parents. At the time that you were adopted this was the way things were done. Adoptive parents and birth parents were often encouraged to keep things closed as a way to help the child feel more secure within the adoptive family. They just did not understand the consequences of those actions back then. I'm sure your adoptive parents had the best of intentions and loved you very much.

Hi everyone. I am new to this forum.
I just wanted to introduce myself and let everyone know my story.
I am 34 years old and i have only found out 6 years ago that i was adopted. To me it was DEVISTATING. My adoptive parents never wanted me to know. I found my own adoption papers when looking in a safe deposit box for my adoptive mothers will when she was dying on cancer. My adoptive father knows nothing of my adoption. never met my birth parents and used a shady lawyer to buy me off a street corner in Brooklyn in 1974.
I am currently doing everything i can to try to find my birth family. I have registered with all the adoption registries, i talk to countless people online and anywhere i can to see what i can do to find my family. I have no clue as to what my medicle history is. I have no one who looks like me, no family and no idea where i fit in to this world. I was adopted into a jewish family who taught me nothing about the religion and way. I have found out i am really half spanish. I dont know from what country. I have found out bits and pieces from the State (NY) as well as from the birth index in NYC with my name. I have a false birth certificate and basically a false life.
I just want to tell anyone who i planning on adoptiong how important it is to NOT keep this vital information from your child. It is DEVISTATING to the child. Every human being deserves to know where they came from and their medical history. Mine is sealed away forever. The story of my life was taken from me and the government tells me i am not allowed to have it.
Please dont let your children grow up without knowing viatl information about themselves. Especially medical history.
Thanks for listening.

Baby Hernandez
Born 6/26/74, Brooklyn NY
Still searching after 6 years for birth family and medical history.

[babyworks]

I am very sorry about your finding out you were adopted this way as well. But honestly, I too was adopted by my stepfather at 8. Although I really didnt understand much of what was going on, I was adopted and never knew I had any other father.

I was around 14 when I found out that I had a biological father. I wasnt devastated, just curious to know more. I thought it was great to find out that I had a real father, and of course, since I lived in not so favorable conditions with my step father, I dreamed of a better life.

Needless to say, 12 years later, I am not any closer to him. He is now incarcerated and the only positive benefit is finding out I had two half brothers and a half sister from him, to whom I have found after 5 years of searching.

Stay strong and be persistent. You may want to start, if you know, with the hospital you were born in. In your situation, it may be difficult to find out. But, finding your birth parents may not be all you invision. Just remember, you had a family who loved you and did everything to provide for you, no matter the difficulties. I am thankful for my parents, but, I had a very rough childhood. It made me stronger, but now that I have found my family, I honestly have to say, its a lot of drama tied to it.

I hope I dont sound negative, just trying to give the flip side. Other than finding my siblings, really, I gained nothing finding my father and other family.

Hi, I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you had to find out about your adoption that way and that it is difficult for you to find your biological parents. I agree with you that it is important for adoptive parents to be honest with their children about their adoptions. Thank goodness, most adoptions are open or semi open today. We have an open adoption and really love the fact that our son will be able to ask his birth mother questions, get to know her if he wants to and know his genetic family history. Although I certainly wish I could have given birth to him myself, I am truly thankful for the gift that we were given and my husband and I always want to honor our son's birth mother and our son through our honesty and commitment to an open adoption. Best of luck to you. Even though your birth records are closed you may still find a way to find out about your birth parents. Don't give up hope and try not to be too hard on your adoptive parents. At the time that you were adopted this was the way things were done. Adoptive parents and birth parents were often encouraged to keep things closed as a way to help the child feel more secure within the adoptive family. They just did not understand the consequences of those actions back then. I'm sure your adoptive parents had the best of intentions and loved you very much.