After exchanging emails with an EMom, she chose us as parents for her baby (we think). She all but said "you are the family." We even received a message through our website from the EDad confirming that this is their decision and stating that she "picked a great family." The problem is, since she "chose" us, we have only received one email from her saying "how ya doin'?".

So, my question is this: Has anyone else been in a similar situation that turned out to be a success story?

The waiting is driving us crazy!!! We are anxious to move on if this doesn't work out, but we're hesitant to contract with an agency if she's just waiting until the baby is born to contact us.

Just looking for some encouragement, I guess.

Thanks!

Trish

Hi Trish~
I dont know if I have any great advice....just questions...do you have any other way to contact her..such as phone number...what about where she lives? When is she due? Maybe she just needs a little time to adjust to her decision? It's hard to say. We had a similar situation earlier this summer where we'd met a bm on-line & emails sounded great & she basically said that we would be the family she would choose...although she hadn't officially chosen us...then we'd go for a month or more & not hear anything from her...then I'd write & ask her if she'd changed her mind...& she'd email back & promise to keep better in touch...until another month would go by. It ended up that she told us she lost her baby. Whether we were scammed or if she just changed her mind..OR it was what really happened...we'll never really know.
I hope you get contact from her soon...I KNOW how difficult the waiting can be...especially when you aren't receiving any type of communication from her. Try to think about what it'd be like to be in her shoes & how you'd feel...maybe that'll help with the waiting. If you don't hear anything soon...personally, I'd keep my other options open JUST IN CASE!

sorry...I'm sure this didn't help you in any way...just know that you're not the only one out there who's gone through something like that.

I wish you the best!

Cheryl

Thanks Cheryl. Everything checks out, she lives very close to us and she's due on Sunday (Oct. 7) so we don't have too much longer to wait. Unfortunately, she has only wanted to have contract through email.

Believe me, we're not holding our breath! We've been through this before, so until the baby is in our arms we're not getting too whipped up about it.

I was just having a "moment" and wondered if this happens to other people, or if we are the only ones left guessing.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Trish

Do you have any way to contact her? Do you have an email address or phone #. If I were you next time you talk to her ask if she wants you to adopt. Ask for proof of pregnancy. Ask to meet her and get her phone #. If she says she wants you to adopt but, won't do these things I would be skeptical. We were just scammed by a girl saying she wanted us to adopt she canceled the day before. I was kind of my fault though I wanted it to be real so bad. I ignored the signs like she wouldn't talk to me on the phone or provide proof of pregnancy. I saw pictures after the baby was born so I thought everything was good. Turns out she was sending me pictures of her cousin and her baby. Just be careful make sure she is willing to meet you.

Good luck,
Michelle